I’m going to admit a secret here and now: I don’t have a local “mom tribe”. I know in this day and age, everyone has a tribe. Articles and books have been written about it. Everyone blogs and Facebooks about how they wouldn’t be anywhere without their tribe and I believe them.
Now not having a tribe isn’t from lack of trying, believe me! I just seem to be awkward enough (dang introvert personality) that I have a lot of acquaintances but no close local friends. I’ve joined several volunteer groups, I’m the room mom, and I always try to be friendly to everyone I meet. It just seems to be harder and harder to begin meaningful relationships in this season of life.
My long distance “tribe” of best friends are from high school and college. They live all around the country, and sadly, none are local. I also have amazing internet spina bifida Mom friends who have been with me throughout my daughter’s journey. But I have to admit it’s not the same as being able to pop over to someone’s house or meet up for cocktails.
When I see friends post pictures of their “tribe” out with their kids at the zoo, having dinner together or on a girl’s night out, I feel that small bit of sadness in not having that.
I know being a mom is hard and having a support system makes it so much easier. I don’t know where I would be without my calls, text messages and DM’s from my long distance tribe. I’m grateful for them every day!
For now, I’ll just keep on looking for my local tribe. I can see my ad now- Wanted: Non-judgey moms who like to drink coffee, read books, laugh at The Office, love Harry Potter, wear yoga pants and enjoy the occasional cocktail.
Cheers to finding your tribe, whether it’s long distance or local. We Moms need one another.